Children experience emotions intensely, often before they have the words to explain what’s happening inside them. That intensity can show up as tantrums, withdrawal, or confusion. Teaching kids to name their emotions is a simple practice, but its impact is profound.

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Why Putting Feelings Into Words Matters

When children learn to identify and say what they’re feeling, it changes how their brain processes the experience. Research from the University of California, Los Angeles, shows that labelling emotions reduces activity in the amygdala, the part of the brain that triggers emotional alarms, while activating the prefrontal cortex, which helps regulate feelings.

Naming feelings gives kids a way to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. The act of labelling emotions, known as affect labelling, is an early step in developing emotional intelligence.

Emotional Vocabulary Shapes Behaviour

Without the words to express themselves, children often act out their emotions. Frustration can lead to hitting; confusion can lead to withdrawal. When children learn to label their emotions, their reactions change.

A study in Emotion (2012) found that children who can name their emotions show better emotional control and fewer behavioural problems. For example, saying “I feel nervous when others don’t listen” gives a child the ability to communicate their discomfort rather than act out physically. Emotional vocabulary is like a map for feelings; it helps children navigate challenging situations rather than getting lost in them.

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Supporting Brain Development

Naming emotions doesn’t just improve behaviour, it also strengthens the brain. A 2019 Emotion study found that children with strong emotional vocabulary develop a more active prefrontal cortex. This area controls decision-making, self-control, and problem-solving.

When kids can express feelings of disappointment, embarrassment, or anxiety, they’re practising regulation and reflection. These are skills that pay off not only in childhood but throughout life.

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How Emotional Literacy Works in Everyday Life

At school, Kids who can say, “I feel left out,” instead of acting out during group activities, experience fewer conflicts.

At home, Parents who notice and label feelings, “It looks like you’re frustrated that your toy broke”, help children feel seen and understood.

In friendships, expressing emotions clearly, such as saying “That hurt my feelings,” strengthens relationships and fosters empathy.

Children who can talk about their feelings are not just calmer; they are more capable of connecting with others.

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Teaching Children to Name Emotions

Building emotional vocabulary doesn’t need complicated methods. Small habits make a big difference:

• Model emotional language: Say aloud how you feel in everyday situations.
• Use visual aids: Emotion charts or wheels help kids link words to feelings.
• Discuss books and stories: Ask how characters might feel and why.
• Validate, don’t dismiss: Replace “You’re fine” with “I see you’re upset. That’s okay.”
• Encourage nuanced language: Move beyond “happy” and “sad” to words like proud, embarrassed, anxious, or relieved.

Consistency is key. Over time, these habits make emotional language second nature for children.

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Helping children put feelings into words equips them with tools they’ll use for a lifetime: better communication, stronger relationships, and improved coping skills. Emotions don’t disappear when ignored; they only become harder to manage. Teaching children to name their feelings gives them clarity, control, and confidence. It’s a simple habit with far-reaching benefits, helping kids grow into adults who are self-aware, empathetic, and resilient.

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